I remember myself to be very hardworking and ambitious about my career since my early childhood. But, though in one hand I sounded very confident, but on the other I was of confusing nature. The way I thought, felt about the matters didn’t turned out to be good in my future. To cut the big thing short, I learnt that my attitude towards life was completely wrong.
I later realised that to achieve something, your attitude towards every component of life, be it work performance, relationships should be correct and positive. ‘ A positive attitude is a person’s passport to a better tomorrow’
Attitude is our perception about any person or circumstances. The way we think, feel or react about anything, be it negative or positive, determines our attitude. Attitude is a complex combination of our personality, beliefs, behaviours, and forms our overall identity. Though attitude is internal, yet it is reflected in the resulting behaviour of any person. It is however influenced by many external factors, like childhood upbringing, surrounding environment, people we are associated with etc.
Attitude has three major components:
• Affective Component: It is determined by how and what situation, or object affects a person. Affective component is the immediate feelings or emotions that are brought to surface about something. E.g. fear, hate.
• Behavioural Component: Behavioural component deals with the tendency of a person to behave in a particular way towards any object, situation or person. It affects the way a person behaves or reacts.
• Cognitive component: The cognitive component refers to the belief, thoughts and emotions, that a person associate with an object. It is generally based on information and knowledge a person receives about anything.
How to adopt a correct attitude towards life?
• Be in your senses: Be aware of yourself. Most of the time, we remain unaware of how we act, think and behave. Check yourself. Be responsible of your own activities. Always keep your mind clear from unwanted thoughts like criticism, disappointments, anger, rejection, doubt etc. Shakespeare said, ‘there is nothing good or bad, but thinking makes it so’
• Stop complaining: Avoid highlighting your problems. You can make constructive discussion on your problem , but dwelling on them continuously leads you nowhere. Troubles like babies, grow larger by nursing’ Lady Holland. Instead count your blessings, focus on what you have, rather than what you don’t have.
• Learn to be positive : Learn to adopt a positive outlook towards life. Try to see a positive aspect in every big and small happening in your life. One cannot change which is not under control, but a positive attitude can lessen the impact on your mind, body and makes your path easier. As Jeff Keller says, ‘Don’t let problems cloud your attitude window forever. Clear off that cloudy window. You may find, after the dust settles, hat you can actually see better than you did before’
This is my first ‘A’ post for the ongoing #blogchatterA2Z challenge.
So, stay tuned for more sessions on upgrading our mental health.