Sometimes, such situations arise, when I stop or hesitate to take the first move. People easily judged it as ego, but I know it is something else; which stops me to move further. The question that holds me back is not ‘Why should I?, but a caution feeling ‘I should not’. There is a very thin line of difference between ego and self-respect, and it is very important to maintain that balance, by distinguishing the two. Ego and self-respect are poles apart, though both are related to self-feeling. It entirely depends on our outlook on how we value ourselves and others. Let’s sort out clearly.
Ego: Symbolises negativity, and immaturity of mind. It is an unhealthy emotion, arising out of one’s complexities and insecurities. It is an inflated feeling of pride and arrogance. Ego carries along other negative emotions like anger, hatred etc. Ego though can be termed as a blind emotion, yet it is a conscious work of the mind. As Buddha said, ‘Ego is like a dust in the eyes. Without clearing the dust you can’t see anything clearly. So, clear the ego and see the world.’ It results in rotten relationships, with degrading respect.
How to cut down ego:
- Try changing your attitude towards life.
- Learn to respect others and their emotions.
- Practice forgiveness, and bear an open outlook, be it a situation or a person.
- Surround yourself with positivity, shed away negative emotions.
- Evaluate your daily interactions. Spend silent time with yourself and meditate.
Self-respect: A sign of positivity and a matured mind. It is associated with one’s confidence and guards one’s dignity. It is that caution feeling inside the mind, beyond which you won’t allow one to trespass your self-value and self-worth. Mahatma Gandhi said,’ Self-respect knows no considerations’. In self-respect, you not only respect yourself, but equally give due respect to others’ emotions.
How to developed Self-respect:
- Be honest with yourself, know your strengths and weakness
- Take care of yourself, mentally, physically, and spiritually.
- Learn to say “no’ that doesn’t make you happy.
- Learn to accept and work on criticism.
- Be kind to yourself; motivate yourself, no negative self-talk.