Ralph Waldo Emerson once said, “What you speak so loudly that I cannot hear what you say.”
Sometimes we speak so loudly through our body, that words fall short for it. Our body language is a powerful non-verbal communication that we do, through conscious and unconscious movements. It can be through our postures, gestures, facial expressions, eye contact, or even by touch.
Albert Mehrabian, a pioneer researcher of body language in the 1950s, found that the total impact of a message is about 7% verbal (words only) and 38% vocal (including tone of voice, inflection and other sounds) and 55% non-verbal. It’s how you looked when you said it, not what you actually said.
Conversation that we actually involve with others, in our daily basis, is nothing but exchange of energy. One can feel the type of vibrational energy you are sending, which depicts the true feeling. Therefore it is necessary that our body and words express the same feeling. A person’s attitude and thoughts are reflected in his behaviour, and how the person carries his or her body. Allan Pease stated that it was the original communication system used by humans before spoken language evolved.
Body language is the outward expression of our thoughts and emotions. Every movement , posture or gesture, is a resultant product of the feelings at that moment. An effective body language is as necessary as honest and decent words. The type of language your body adopts can make or break your personality and quality of living.
A positive body language is a composite of the following;
A smile lightens up the atmosphere around you. It creates a sense of well-being and develops an aura of positivity around you. People find you more welcoming and approachable in attitude. Always try to bear a genuine expression on your face, with a sticking curve of smile on it. A correct facial expression triggers the appropriate emotional vibration around you.
Appear relaxed and composed. Be comfortable and avoid defensive posture, like folding hands. Folded hands show disinterest towards the person. Feel calm and settled down internally, so as to appear relax outside. An easy position, correct posture of your hands and legs, a mild smile, an affirmative look, an appropriate eye contact is a package of a relaxed body language.
Always show interest, when people are keen to talk to you. Let your attention be only on the person, avoid looking here and there, or doing multi- tasking. Looking to ground, checking your time, uncomfortable sitting or standing position etc. are some of the things you need to avoid. You can show your interest with small gestures throughout the conversation, like smiling back, nodding in between, or asking any relevant questions.
Yes, confidence counts. People like, admire and get inspired by a confident person. An attitude of confidence in balanced way increases your accountability as a person. Depicting a power pose, with expanded shoulder, head held high, straight back, are looks of a confident body.
Sometimes, a firm and polite handshake with the person you meet, stimulates a general feeling of wellness around you. You appear more welcome and credible to the person. It instantly generates goodwill and a sense of positivity in the environment. Besides this, involvement of appropriate hand gestures makes your conversation more interesting and increases the impact of your words.
Always keep a safe and comfortable space in between. The physical space ,or the distance between two person, also conveys o lot of non-verbal communication. Anthropologist Edward Hall , described four level of social distance i.e. Intimate distance of 6 to 18 inches, in case of close relationships; Personal distance of 1.5 to 4 feet, in case of comfortable and known relations.; Social distance of 4 to 12 feet, with acquaintances and Public distance of 12 to 25 feet , in case of public speaking .
This is my 12th post, alphabet ‘L’, for the ongoing #blogchattera2z Challenge, 2019.