Ralph Waldo Emerson once said, “What you speak so loudly that I cannot hear what you say.”

Sometimes we speak so loudly through our body, that words fall short for it. Our body language is a powerful non-verbal communication that we do, through conscious and unconscious movements. It can be through our postures, gestures, facial expressions, eye contact, or even by touch.

Albert Mehrabian, a pioneer researcher of body language in the 1950s, found that the total impact of a message is about 7% verbal (words only) and 38% vocal (including tone of voice, inflection and other sounds) and 55% non-verbal. It’s how you looked when you said it, not what you actually said.

Conversation that we actually involve with others, in our daily basis, is nothing but exchange of energy. One can feel the type of vibrational energy you are sending, which depicts the true feeling. Therefore it is necessary that our body and words express the same feeling. A person’s attitude and thoughts are reflected in his behaviour, and how the person carries his or her body. Allan Pease stated that it was the original communication system used by humans before spoken language evolved.

Body language and the mind.


Body language is the outward expression of our thoughts and emotions. Every movement , posture or gesture, is a resultant product of the feelings at that moment. An effective body language is as necessary as honest and decent words. The type of language your body adopts can make or break your personality and quality of living.

A positive body language is a composite of the following;

Smiling Signature


A smile lightens up the atmosphere around you. It creates a sense of well-being and develops an aura of positivity around you. People find you more welcoming and approachable in attitude. Always try to bear a genuine expression on your face, with a sticking curve of smile on it. A correct facial expression triggers the appropriate emotional vibration around you.


Relaxed posture


Appear relaxed and composed. Be comfortable and avoid defensive posture, like folding hands. Folded hands show disinterest towards the person.  Feel calm and settled down internally, so as to appear relax outside. An easy position, correct posture of your hands and legs, a mild smile, an affirmative look, an appropriate eye contact is a package of a relaxed body language.


Listener attitude


Always show interest, when people are keen to talk to you. Let your attention be only on the person, avoid looking here and there, or doing multi- tasking. Looking to ground, checking your time, uncomfortable sitting or standing  position etc. are some of the things you need to avoid.  You can show your interest with small gestures throughout the conversation, like smiling back, nodding in between, or asking any relevant questions.


Confidence counts


Yes, confidence counts. People like, admire and get inspired by a confident person. An attitude of confidence in balanced way increases your accountability as a person. Depicting a power pose, with expanded shoulder, head held high, straight back, are looks of a confident body.


Hands on


Sometimes, a firm and polite handshake with the person you meet, stimulates a general feeling of wellness around you. You appear more welcome and credible to the person. It instantly generates goodwill and a sense of positivity in the environment. Besides this, involvement of appropriate hand gestures makes your conversation more interesting and increases the impact of your words.


Comfortable space


Always keep a safe and comfortable space in between. The physical space ,or the distance between two person, also conveys o lot of non-verbal communication. Anthropologist Edward Hall , described four level of social distance i.e.  Intimate distance of 6 to 18 inches, in case of close relationships; Personal distance of 1.5 to 4 feet, in case of comfortable and known relations.; Social distance of 4 to 12 feet, with acquaintances and  Public distance of 12 to 25 feet , in case of public speaking .


This is my 12th post, alphabet ‘L’, for the ongoing #blogchattera2z Challenge, 2019.











anupriya · April 13, 2019 at 11:14 am

I agree and vouch by each of the pointers on body language mentioned by you.

    Darshana · April 13, 2019 at 11:48 am

    Thank you so mch, Anupriya

Abhijit · April 13, 2019 at 12:14 pm

Unconscioulsy we exhibit body language when we don’t like something. It is important to assume a body posture that shows a person to be relaxed and receptive. A defensive posture may not look good and may not go down well during interaction. But to assume an amiable body language, one needs a lot of effort. It is not easy to receive a bad appraisal and accept it with a smiling face with a relaxed demenour.

vidhya thakkar · April 13, 2019 at 9:41 pm

So true! You explained it well!

    Darshana · April 16, 2019 at 12:31 am

    Thnks, Vidhya..!

Priyanka Nair · April 14, 2019 at 2:15 am

Body language speaks a lot about the person, a very interesting topic. Reminded me of my Soft Skills sessions at the time of MBA.

    Darshana · April 16, 2019 at 12:31 am

    Thanks, Priyanka..
    Yes, it should included in more curriculum.

Deepika · April 14, 2019 at 3:07 am

I agreed with all the pointers. Nicely penned.

    Darshana · April 16, 2019 at 12:30 am

    Thanks, Deepika…
    Keep encouraging me.

Samira Gupta · April 14, 2019 at 4:11 pm

So true. No matter what lips say but Body language says everything, the true and genuine feelings.

    Darshana · April 14, 2019 at 4:15 pm

    Thank you so mch, Samira

    Darshana · April 16, 2019 at 12:29 am

    Definately, Samira..
    Thank you for stopping by.

Noor Anand Chawla · April 14, 2019 at 8:55 pm

So true! Our body language matters so much!

    Darshana · April 14, 2019 at 11:56 pm

    Thank you so mch, Noor..!

    Darshana · April 16, 2019 at 12:28 am

    Indeed ,Noor
    Thank you for reading

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