Letting go is tough, I understand. And I confess, it was hard for me too. There were many unpleasant things that we gather in our lifetime, store in mind, and allow them to prick us painfully every now and then. But, there is scope to handle in a different way, by letting go. I virtually went through a mind transformation through my meditation sessions. It made me deeply realise what life is all about. I started believing that we are on a journey, there is no definite destination for happiness, all that matters in our journey, how happier and easier we make it. As Buddha said, ‘ In the end, three things matter: how much you loved, how gently you lived and how gracefully you let go of things not meant for you.’
Forgiveness meditation taught me that letting go doesn’t symbolise weakness, rather it is a symbol of a powerful mind. It heals you more than anything else. As the eminent motivational speaker Robin Sharma says, ‘when you bear a grudge against someone, it is almost like carrying that person around your back with you. He drains you of your energy, enthusiasm and peace of mind. But the moment you forgive him, you get him off your back, and move on with the rest of your life.’ Beautiful and powerful at the same time, isn’t ??
Letting go is the willingness to move forward, to leave behind the unwanted to a better one. It is the opportunity to feel light, to unload the heaviness, suppressing your mind and soul. It is hard to fly when something is weighing you down.
I adopted the two important mantras in my life, which not only helps me in letting go but also in shedding the unwanted stuffs in my mind:
Identify and Accept: Identify the problem that is disturbing you. Reconsider and evaluate the situation. Re-evaluating through a cool mind, helps you to look at the situation from a different perspective, and finally putting a full-stop on it. Instead of complaining, the way to the solution is far more peaceful.
Accept the way it is, be it a person, or situation. Restricting and rejecting something or someone creates suffering. To free oneself, acknowledge whatever it is, and move on. It is important to realise that we cannot control all situations, but our reactions towards it are in our control. Most important of all, through acceptance, you grow, your mind grows, it is a part of a personal growth strategy.
Practising compassion: As Dalai Lama says, ‘If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion’. Compassion is to develop empathy towards your fellow human beings. To understand that other people are also undergoing equal suffering, pain, loneliness and your small gesture of love and positivity would heal his/her wound, is a sign of pure compassion. When someone hurts us through his actions or words, the person suffers from the negative turmoil of emotions, be it anger, jealousy, hatred, frustration, much longer before. In such a case, he/she is in a more painful stage, than the pain he gives to us.
Equally important is the practice of self-compassion. Love yourself to love others. Negative emotions like guilt, anger, hatred, jealousy, deteriorates your inner-self. Realise what is good for you, for your personal growth, physically, mentally and spiritually. Prioritise your life, through self-care. Keep yourself away from anything that pulls you down. Compassion makes our life easier, simple, peaceful and thereby happy.