Letting go is tough, I understand. And I confess, it was hard for me too. There were many unpleasant things that we gather in our lifetime, store in mind, and allow them to prick us painfully every now and then.  But, there is scope to handle in a different way, by letting go. I virtually went through a mind transformation through my meditation sessions. It made me deeply realise what life is all about.  I started believing that we are on a journey, there is no definite destination for happiness, all that matters in our journey, how happier and easier we make it. As Buddha said, ‘ In the end, three things matter: how much you loved, how gently you lived and how gracefully you let go of things not meant for you.’

Forgiveness meditation taught me that letting go doesn’t symbolise weakness, rather it is a symbol of a powerful mind. It heals you more than anything else. As the eminent motivational speaker Robin Sharma says, ‘when you bear a grudge against someone, it is almost like carrying that person around your back with you. He drains you of your energy, enthusiasm and peace of mind. But the moment you forgive him, you get him off your back, and move on with the rest of your life.’ Beautiful and powerful at the same time, isn’t ??

How to practice letting go


Letting go is the willingness to move forward, to leave behind the unwanted to a better one. It is the opportunity to feel light, to unload the heaviness, suppressing your mind and soul. It is hard to fly when something is weighing you down.

I adopted the two important mantras in my life, which not only helps me in letting go but also in shedding the unwanted stuffs in my mind:

Identify and Accept: Identify the problem that is disturbing you. Reconsider and evaluate the situation. Re-evaluating through a cool mind, helps you to look at the situation from a different perspective, and finally putting a full-stop on it. Instead of complaining, the way to the solution is far more peaceful.

Accept the way it is, be it a person, or situation. Restricting and rejecting something or someone creates suffering. To free oneself, acknowledge whatever it is, and move on. It is important to realise that we cannot control all situations, but our reactions towards it are in our control. Most important of all, through acceptance, you grow, your mind grows, it is a part of a personal growth strategy.

Practising compassion: As Dalai Lama says, ‘If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion’. Compassion is to develop empathy towards your fellow human beings. To understand that other people are also undergoing equal suffering, pain, loneliness and your small gesture of love and positivity would heal his/her wound, is a sign of pure compassion. When someone hurts us through his actions or words, the person suffers from the negative turmoil of emotions, be it anger, jealousy, hatred, frustration, much longer before. In such a case, he/she is in a more painful stage, than the pain he gives to us.

Equally important is the practice of self-compassion. Love yourself to love others. Negative emotions like guilt, anger, hatred, jealousy,  deteriorates your inner-self. Realise what is good for you, for your personal growth, physically, mentally and spiritually. Prioritise your life, through self-care. Keep yourself away from anything that pulls you down. Compassion makes our life easier, simple, peaceful and thereby happy.


Aditya Sathe · September 2, 2018 at 3:38 pm

I remembered a story of two zen monks about carrying someone on shoulder when you quoted Robin Sharma.

Indeed, Leting go helps very much..

    Darshana · September 2, 2018 at 3:56 pm

    thnk u so mch..glad you liked it.

Sindhu Vinod Narayan · September 2, 2018 at 5:11 pm

Very well thought out. Would help me a lot. #sindhureads #myfriendalexa

Priyal · September 2, 2018 at 7:22 pm

I really like its title let’s letting go…yes I know its too hard to let it go but for our peace we have to do it..

    Darshana · September 2, 2018 at 8:16 pm


Dipali Bhasin · September 2, 2018 at 8:07 pm

‘When you bear a grudge against someone it’s almost like carrying that person on your back with you.” It’s true. The heart gets heavy with disappointment and resentment. It affects our lives more than theirs. It’s best to let go and move on. Loved your article! It’s self-help to a calmer you! Looking forward to more articles in your blog!

Dipali ( https://www.spoonsandsneakers.com/ )

    Darshana · September 2, 2018 at 8:17 pm

    thnk u so much..

Ms Arora · September 2, 2018 at 11:23 pm

True! Completely agree with you. We must let things go at times to lead happy life.

    Darshana · September 2, 2018 at 11:31 pm

    Definately…n thank u for reading.

Mayura Amarkant · September 4, 2018 at 1:17 pm

Forgiveness meditation taught me that letting go doesn’t symbolise weakness, rather it is a symbol of a powerful mind. It heals you more than anything else – this is such a powerful and pragmatic statement. Thank you for bringing such a brilliant read to us. Looking forward to reading more posts from you. #MyFriendAlexa #MayuraReads

    Darshana · September 4, 2018 at 1:53 pm

    thnk u so mch for your encouragement.

SUJATA TAWDE · September 4, 2018 at 6:20 pm

‘ Letting Go ‘ … Easier said than done. , but you have explained , how to do that … so fluently through quotes by Dalai Lama , Robin Sharma etc, #MyFriendAlexa #SujatawdeReads

    Darshana · September 4, 2018 at 6:29 pm

    thnk u so mch..m glad you liked it.

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