I remember been often accused by my Grandma of my ‘unmindful talking’. Yes, I admit the fact that I was in the habit of getting lost during any of our long conversation, which means I remained busy in my own uncountable thoughts rather than actually being in the conversation. Grandma used to often noticed that within me.
I am sure many of you can relate this to yourself. We either remain pre-occupied with thoughts or else our attention gets captured by many unnecessary and irrelevant things, in between our conversations. Sometimes even we fall into the bad habit of overlapping conversation and unknowingly compete on how powerfully we can put our words over the other.
Later I learned that conversation is nothing, but the exchange and flow of energy you radiate to the person next to you. There are many subtle messages, besides the direct conversation. In fact, this subtle energy flow is all that matters. Often our thoughts in the mind and spoken words, don’t match, because of unmindful talking. The other person can feel the rays of positivity or negativity that you radiate towards him or her. This habit may have chances of resulting into;
- rotten relationships
- or you may get a bored person tag
- you become a less reliable person, and
- a situation may also result in the unpleasant ending because you remain unaware of how you should be responding.
Try practicing ( as I am…) doing mindful communication or conversation with the following tips:
- Pause for a moment, before starting anything conversation, bring the awareness to you, and be aware of the presence of another person near you.
- Start with a smile. Smile as widely and warmly you can. As commonly said ‘smile is that curve that sets everything straight.’
- Dissolve the unwanted emotions within you.
- It is important that you make eye contact. Eye contact won’t let you move astray.
- Think before you speak, Speak positively, and diplomatically honest.
- Be a good listener. People want to be heard.
- Enjoy yourself and let the other person enjoy too. There is goodness in everything.
Happy Mindful living…!!