‘If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.’ Dalai Lama
Compassion is a feel-good emotion that you feel for another person. It is a feeling of concern, a sense of warmness, an emotional connection and understanding with a desire to work for the state of well-being of the person. Though it sounds similar to empathy, yet they are different. Empathy is to be completely drenched in the emotional flow of the other person, to feel like in the same shoes, but compassion carries with it a sense of responsibility besides feeling the emotional state.
Compassion is more constructive and positive than empathy, because too much of empathy can also put you in distress, and in that case instead of working for the upliftment of the other, you might yourself get drained out. Compassion, on the other hand, is the capacity to see into the nature of suffering still remain to detach with the outcome.
Why should one practice compassion?
In simple words, practicing compassion makes you a better human being, besides the following;
a. Trains your mind, by making you conscious of your thinking pattern.
b. Incorporates the moral values like kindness, tolerance, selflessness within you.
c. Strengthens your relationships, since it broadens your perspective towards the other person
d. Keeps you positive because by practising compassion you need to be optimistic and focus on good things be it in a person or your life.
e. Increases your mental quality, makes you happier and hence focused and productive in your work.
How to practice compassion towards others?
a. Accept as they are: Everything is not in your control, so instead of wasting your valuable energy on mind juggling, try to accept them as they are. Human characteristics are a result of many things, like upbringing, environment, their thought process etc., which gradually forms a part of them. As you move on accepting the same, it becomes easier to have a compassionate feeling towards the person.
b. Keep your judgement at bay: Avoid judging people. Try to bear an understanding attitude towards the person, and make an effort to know the real reason behind anything that is not pleasing to your sense. Everyone has background reason or story for everything to tell.
c. Be a good listener: Show interest when people want to talk to you. Be patient, and open to their thoughts. Don’t impose your thoughts upon. By being a good listener, you adopt an effective way to show compassion towards others. You not only increase your reliability but also strengthen your relationship with the other person.
d. Express love: Many a time we often hesitate to express our love, but love is to be expressed. Love instantly swallow down all the negativity in the air and spreads the warmth of happiness. Be kind and express yourself softly. Soft and kind words soothe everything.
This is my third post ‘C’ for the ongoing #blogchatterA2Z challenge.